to begin again
and. they say you’re not supposed to start a sentence with “and” but i want to use it this time because i want to feel like this is a continuation of what i started almost 9 years ago here in these posts…the uprooting of what i thought was “real” and the destruction of it…so that i could actually move to…a better place…or maybe just “move” instead of being stagnant.
when my dear friend died about a year ago he told me – “write. please write.” he told me more about how my writing had helped him and others but to say it would sound less than humble so I will just say this – if i can take what is inside me and make it outside of me and that in so doing it gives truth a place to grow in others then yes – i will write.
ritual….any practice or pattern of behavior regularly performed in a set manner. think about all the things you do as a pattern…and the comfort of the patterns. how do you sleep at night (on your side, on your back, against your partner)? how do you wake yourself up (coffee, shower, news)? how do you choose clothes and do your work and eat your food and clean up? all of these patterns are part of our humanity…our comfort and ability to cope and understand life. when i talk to people in a crisis, i will take them back to the rituals of life that they knew before the crisis so that they can find some “ok” again enough to find some way to make peace in the tragedy. looking back at some of what i wrote in 2008…2009, i think one my main goals was how to find “ok” when everything i felt like i knew was snatched away from me. the rituals of life have finally brought me back to “ok” and an ease of life.
but god. he has taken me now to a place where “ok” is not enough now. now he wants a deepening…to take me to a new level of relationship with him…a place where i actually can choose to NOT be “ok” so that he can change things. i can’t pretend to “like” this but i will say that i am so compelled to it…it feels impossible to deny him what he wants…and there is a certain place of relief with that. i am caught up in a love that is all around me and new rituals are starting so that i can let go of “ok” and go to wilder places.